There are an endless amount of characters in the workplace.
There’s the lady you find in the break room, always on a diet and
commenting on your weight (God help you if you are proportionate, she
will eat you alive). The guy who shows off way too many baby pictures of
his not-that-cute-kid. The girl who stays in her office with the door
shut, even during fire drills. And the dreaded over-talker who never
gets the hint (which might explain why that one girl stays in her
office).
We all play roles in our workplaces, many of which are unique to only
our office. But there’s a standard cast of characters as well. You can
find varieties of them anywhere you go, but they all share the same
skill sets. They are the ones who will succeed and the ones who will
fail.
In lieu of filling you with fluffy “this is what a successful person
looks like” talk, I thought I’d take the opposite route. The following
is a list of people who stand out for all the wrong reasons. Fair
warning: If you don’t know who this person is at your office, it might
be you.
1. The Gullible One.
If I’ve learned anything over the years, it’s that you should never
believe everything a company says. Don’t believe them when they say they
don’t expect layoffs (the mere mention of that word suggests they’re on
the way). Don’t believe that they’ve offered you the highest salary
they can. Don’t believe them when they say they can’t negotiate your
raise. And definitely don’t believe them when they say “this year has
been really bad, but next year you’re going to get hooked up on that
promotion you want!”
When a boss, HR rep or recruiter (or anyone playing a role in your
career and financial success) states something that makes you tilt your
head to the side and think “huh…that seems sketch,” don’t just accept
it.
As I’ve said before, the car dealer will act like he can’t budge on a
number. But if you stand up and start walking to the door he’ll
automatically find a discount for you. Companies are in it for the
bottom line even when they’re negotiating things with their employees.
They want to encourage you to stick around while also finding a way to
save money. And it saves them money to give you a smaller raise, to skip
a round of promotions, to make you work through Christmas. Don’t fall
for it.
2. The Groupthinker.
Groupthink is a psychological problem that runs rampant in
workplaces. Even more if you’ve got a large population of “longtermers”
in a corporation. Groupthink is why technology isn’t updated, why
policies are outdated, why there’s no new blood (or ideas) on a team,
why you hear the sentence “you can’t do that, that’s not how we’ve
always done it!”
It’s easy to spot these people, especially if you’re new to a
company. They sit in clumps together and they make bizarre statements in
meetings, they do the same things every day and they complain when
their life is disrupted by something (or someone) new.
If you fight against a mass of groupthinkers, you run a high risk of
failure, persecution, derailment and tons of frustration. But if you
engage and join them, you will become silly and possibly unmarketable
for your next career jump. Take your pick.
3. The Fearful One.
People do ridiculous things when they’re scared. Just ask anyone
who’s died in a horror movie (I mean, who drops the phone and runs up
the stairs?!).
Fearful people will cause you serious amounts of trouble at work. If
they’re scared of getting fired, they will find a way to point a finger
at you. If their project is failing, they will suggest your role was to
blame. Drowning people will grab whatever they can to keep their head
above water. Don’t stand too close and become that object.
And don’t become the drowning person. If you ever feel worried about
something at work, you sense something bad coming your way or you screw
up big time, avoid the fear by taking some action. Talk to someone, your
boss, your mentor or a peer to get information that will quell your
fears. Or fess up and find out immediately what repercussions are headed
your way for the screw-up so you’re not worried about the unknowns. Do
whatever you need to do in order to avoid becoming the fearful one.
4. Apathetic Guy.
The other day, a friend of mine posted a message on Facebook FB +3.3%
stating her frustration that people keep calling her upcoming maternity
leave a “vacation.” She mentioned a litany of things that have to be
done while you’re on maternity leave (none of it sounded remotely
vacation’ish). She referenced this because she felt judged and
persecuted for her decision to take the time off.
Consider now the single person. If you haven’t been in this demo for
awhile, you might not be aware of this, but single people are also
victims of workplace apathy. I’ve actually heard the sentence, “You can
stay late tonight to finish this, right? I gotta get out of here and
it’s not like you’re going home to a family.”
Everyone is dealing with something. Everyone feels judged and
misunderstood every once in awhile. And everyone feels the sting from
these moments. Show some compassion even when you’re having trouble
putting yourself in their shoes.
Don’t be the apathetic coworker. The grass isn’t always greener, even though it may appear so.
5. The Sore Loser.
Anytime you’re successful or experience something great in life or
your career, I guarantee you that someone somewhere will doubt that you
earned it the good ‘ol hard-working way. That someone somewhere is the
sore loser.
A sore loser will think you got that deal because you’ve got an
important last name. Or that you were hired because your Mom sits in the
corner office. Or that you simply got lucky (literally and
figuratively).
You can’t stop a sore loser from thinking what they want and you
can’t convince them out of their opinion. The only way to battle a sore
loser is to make sure they’re not right (it might surprise some of you
ladies that yes, business can indeed be conducted outside the bedroom!).
Update: It’s been called to my attention by several female readers
that the comment above was offensive and diminishes the hard-earned
success of females in the workplace. I realize now it was a poor example
and misrepresented the very reason I have this column. It wasn’t my
goal to suggest that women are perpetuating a Mad Men-era stereotype and
that men are absolved of their roles in these scenarios. While it
exists, this in fact is NOT a common problem in the workplace. I
mentioned it as merely a side note to emphasize the importance in making
sure “Sore Losers” are not making accurate accusations by carrying
yourself properly in the workplace.
Use your connections and your network to get ahead, but do your own
dang work. Show results. Then the sore losers will disappear one by one.
6. Malicious Gossiper.
There’s harmless gossip and then there’s malicious gossip. Harmless
gossip is…harmless. But you must avoid the malicious gossiper
completely. In fact, put large amounts of space between you and this
person.
Assume that since they’re willing to share really bad information
with you, they’re sharing it with other people. They’re kind of like the
flu.
If you run across a malicious gossiper and they start talking,
whatever you do, don’t agree with them. Because the next thing you know,
your sentence of “Oh, I agree with you – I bet she totally slept with
that guy to get that job” will be shortened to “So and so just told me
that so and so slept with so and so!” And voila, you’re screwed.
7. The Apologizer.
I recently attended an event where several startups were invited to
pitch. One woman stood up to sell her idea to a room undoubtedly full of
millions, a big opportunity for a small company. She looked sharp and
ready. But then she opened with, “Don’t worry, this isn’t a crappy
website that does blah…”
Well shoot. For the remainder of her presentation, I assumed her website was crappy.
The Apologizer will discredit themselves as soon as they open their
mouth. They will start a presentation with qualifying statements like
the one above or they will ask for a raise by saying, “I know we don’t
have a lot of money, but…” They lose these deals because they show a
massive lack of confidence in the statement, regardless of topic.
You don’t necessarily have to avoid this person. Just don’t be this
person. The company pays you a salary because they think you’re worth
it. You have every right to be in the room and to be having that
conversation right then. Why act like you don’t belong there?
Repeat the following statement as many times as you need to before
you have an important conversation or make a presentation: Be confident,
not cocky.
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